ms_daisy_cutter: (agatha-rage)
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(from Microaggressions)

No, actually, how about the entitled, woman-resenting manchildren who seem to infest both meatspace and cyberspace take responsibility for their own fucking actions for a change, and the "traditional values" numpties/Reader's Digest subscribers who burble these kinds of pieties actually pressure THEM to do so instead of blaming women for the men's behavior?

(Typical would be this tool — warning for shitty music autoplay — whose "About" page includes this splendid advice: "Never allow yourself to be made a victim." Gosh! Thank you for your words of wiz-dumb, 18-year-old xtian fundie d00d!)

I hate, absolutely despise, the words "lady" and "gentleman" as behavioral prescriptives. Every woman I've ever met who ostentatiously simpered about being a "lady" was a roaring bore who got her jollies from policing the behavior of other women. Every man I've ever met who loudly announced that he was a "gentleman" was a puffed-up sexist shitpeel who believed he was owed endless groveling and blowjobs for ... being "nice" to women. And the announcement is not infrequently made in the following context: "If I weren't a gentleman, I'd have decked that pushy bitch/uppity cunt/skanky whore like she deserved."

I am not a lady. If your reaction is, "Yeah, no shit, bitch," then congratulations on achieving total recto-cranial inversion. You are officially too stupid to read my DW. And I don't have any use for "gentlemen." I want to deal with grown-ass men who don't whine and clutch their pee-pees when women don't fawn over them — or do worse.

Unlocked.
 

Date: 2011-07-29 01:20 am (UTC)
happiestsadist: I made this (Default)
From: [personal profile] happiestsadist
I tend to announce that I am a proper lady just after letting loose a spectacular fart or belch. Or hurling obscenities at inconsiderate drivers who don't give a shit about crosswalks.

Date: 2011-07-29 01:26 am (UTC)
happiestsadist: I made this (Default)
From: [personal profile] happiestsadist
Agreed.

I may have also declared myself a lady after staggering bow-legged to bed after my pre-colonoscopy bowel cleanse. "I just shit out a planet. I'm a lady, scoot over in that damn bed."

Date: 2011-07-29 01:30 am (UTC)
happiestsadist: I made this (Default)
From: [personal profile] happiestsadist
Well, I certainly felt like some scatological Tiamat.

Date: 2011-07-29 07:13 am (UTC)
kankurette: (Snoll Tzar)
From: [personal profile] kankurette
I like the way you think.

Date: 2011-07-29 06:41 am (UTC)
fierynotes: Picture of Arsenal, from DC comics, who clearly sees something he likes. (leers)
From: [personal profile] fierynotes
Personally, I must insist that I am a fucking gentleman.

But you know exactly what I mean by that, and if anyone referred to me as a gentlemen without the qualifier "fucking" in front of it, I'd deny it.

Date: 2011-07-29 07:06 am (UTC)
kankurette: (Scared Luna)
From: [personal profile] kankurette
Me too. I'm a woman, not a lady. I make knob gags, I sit with my legs wide open, I swear, I scratch my arse, I watch football, I have hairy legs. In short, I am not ladylike and I don't WANT to be. And most of the guys I've experienced who call themselves gentlemen...aren't. Same with men who claim to be chivalrous.

Date: 2011-07-29 05:33 pm (UTC)
keori: Can we fix it? No, HCR is fucked! (pic#385834)
From: [personal profile] keori
Jesus Herschel Christ.

I hatehateHATE patronizing garbage like this. Its only purpose is to shame women for being independent and self-sufficient, because apparently that makes men feel like they have small pee-pees or some such, and as everyone knows, it's all about Teh Poor Menz.

The reality is that if women sat down and waited for men to step up and "be gentlemen" in the sense that this piece of excrement means it, we'd quickly find ourselves not seated in our chairs, but lying on the floor being doormats.

Date: 2011-07-29 05:45 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] realinterrobang.livejournal.com
I'm handicapped. Be "ladylike"? Great, more shit I can't do...

Date: 2011-07-29 05:55 pm (UTC)
kankurette: (Scared Luna)
From: [personal profile] kankurette
Well, disabled women aren't Real Women, don'tchaknow. We have no sex organs or something.

Date: 2011-07-29 11:21 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] realinterrobang.livejournal.com
Yeah, I sort of noticed that, somehow. It's like I got a pass from a lot of the worst aspects of indoctrination into Toxic Femininity because, I guess, I'm one of Those People and it's not like I'd need it or anything. After all, performing femininity is only for attracting Teh Menz, and you only do that if you're going to eventually have Teh Secks, and handicapped people don't have that, do they? (EWWWW), so why bother?

I dunno. Your guess is as good as mine.

Nevertheless, "proper" behaviour standards are still a comprehensive schedule for social control.

Date: 2011-07-30 05:37 am (UTC)
gardnerhill: Muppets Tonight quote (JW: Now Cute Has Learned To Kill)
From: [personal profile] gardnerhill
When my mom chewed me out at 14 for striding like a lumberjack is the exact moment I stopped giving a rat's ass about anything "ladylike"; I finally put all the pieces together and noticed that all "ladylike" movements, postures, clothing and attitudes add up to the same thing: Making it harder for women to run away.

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